Category: Marriage

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Criticism in Marriage Part 2 – Destructive Criticism

In Part 1 of Criticism in Marriage, I barely scratch the surface of criticism whether good, bad, or indifferent. Today I would like to focus on criticism that is destructive and destroying marriages and families. Learning the differences in criticism is not only important for your marriage, but it will affect your workplace, your church, and your children. Types of Destructive Criticism One type is the passive aggressive comment. If you’ve ever seen Everybody Loves Raymond, you are familiar with this type of criticism. We usually call it a complement wrapped around an insult. Something like, “You did great a great job...

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Choose Love

When I decided to write on this topic I thought it would be fun to use the graphic above in remembrance of that popular movie scene in, “The Matrix”.  In the clip Morpheus asks, “Do you want to know what IT is?”  He was talking about the Matrix, but I’m talking about Love.  In that particular scene he gives the hero, Neo, a choice.  Take the blue pill and just go on believing whatever you want to believe.  For the purpose of this blog post, I equate this option to just keep on loving based on your own feelings.  Morpheus also gives him...

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Criticism in Marriage Part 1

Have you ever had the feeling that you can’t get anything right in the eyes of your spouse? Do you find yourself doing things, or even hiding things, just to avoid what your spouse may say? Are you getting that “why bother” mentality? You may find yourself thinking, why bother making the bed if she’s only going to complain that the pillows weren’t in the right order! In these types of relationships, it may seem at times that every attempt at pleasing just seems to result in criticism. You may feel like you have an overly critical spouse, but let’s back...

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Date Night

Not too long ago we became acquainted with a really great church in Branson, MO.  One of the reasons we have such a great respect for that church is that the cornerstone of the vision for their church includes holding marriage in high regard.  Every month they dedicate the second Sunday to be a marriage service held throughout their entire church where they bring attention of what God says about marriage.  What they are doing, I believes fulfills  what is said in part by: Hebrews 13:4, “Marriage should be honored by all…” Of course imitation is the highest form of flattery,...

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Marriage is Like Candy Crush

When I told Jerry I was thinking about writing a blog post to compare marriage to Candy Crush, I think his jaw actually fell into his lap. It’s always fun to get a reaction like that from your spouse, don’t you think? 🙂 For those of you who don’t know, Candy Crush is a game made popular by the social media site, Facebook, played on most devices. The game links up with your Facebook account so that you can, in some ways, play with your friends. It’s a puzzle game in which you advance level by level by completing the...

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Role Models

Who were your role models when you were growing up? Were you into superheros who flew off to rescue someone at the first sign of trouble? Or maybe your hero was a teacher or coach who encouraged you, even if they were a little rough on you. Was your role model your mother or your father? If you are like me, you didn’t have the best childhood and therefore laugh when I suggest that your parents could have been your role model. In actuality, they probably made more of an impact on you than you realize. I was recently listening...

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Get Your Free Gift

During the Christmas of 2004 I took the kids to see the Christmas Train in Dry Gulch USA.  I haven’t been there in about 10 years, but at least back then it was a really great trip for the family, especially for the younger kiddos.  I remember seeing the sights, the Christmas lights, riding the train, and sipping hot chocolate with the kids too.  My favorite memory of the entire trip is captured in the photo above.  Near the end of the adventure they gather everyone together for a special Christmas presentation.  They share a very sincere message of the Gospel...

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5 Steps to Forgiveness

When is the last time you were deeply hurt by someone close to you? What was your response to the hurt? Perhaps you wanted to retaliate and seek revenge in some way. Or perhaps you took no action whatsoever and instead harbor bitterness and resentment in your heart. Do you carry your hurt with you to this day? You do great damage to yourself when you choose to have an unforgiving spirit. The root of unforgivness is a bitter root that takes hold in your heart, and then spreads a poison that chokes out every godly trait there. A friend...

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Are You Investing In Marriage?

I was mowing the lawn at my home this weekend and it hit me.  I must be a real cheapskate when it comes to investing in our own lawn.  This trait must come from my dad since he has been known to say on many occasions that, “I would rather concrete every inch of the yard then have to waste my time mowing it.”  I hate to say that I think I may agree with that statement.  As I began my arduous journey atop our ever-so-temperamental riding lawn mower, I began to ponder the yard work over the years. First...

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How to Change Your Spouse

Have you ever wondered, “If I could only change that one thing about my spouse, everything in our lives would be so much better.”  Let’s be honest, with all those wonderful habits in life that our partner has, who hasn’t wondered about changing at least one thing about our spouse?  The truth is you really can influence change in your spouse, but probably not in the way you think. So, you say you are desiring real change in your lives and your marriage?  Let’s look at what is required for real change to flourish – Integrity.  Integrity is the prerequisite...