Category: Marriage

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Choosing an Attitude of Love

There is something deep inside of every human that tells us we need to feel loved. Loved by our parents, by our spouse, by our friends, by our family, and loved in general. This desire is so important that Jesus even told us that the greatest commandment is to love. Yet why do we find this so difficult in our day to day life with our spouse? Sadly the answer is pretty simple; we do not choose an attitude of love. We instead begin to focus on ourselves, generating negative thoughts, and eventually we are so closed off that we...

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The Importance of Dating in Marriage

Boy meets girl.  Boy pursues girl.  Boy gets girl.  Boy marries girl. Boy exhausted now!  That may be an all too familiar scenario in today’s instant gratification society, but guys it’s not an excuse to stop dating your wives.  If your marriage is important, then both of you must put a high value on dating your spouse. Studies suggest that married couples who invest in their relationship by having at least one date night per week experience: a significant increase in happiness, relationship satisfaction, communication, and sexual satisfaction by about 350% or 3.5 times higher than couples who aren’t regularly...

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Reaping and Sowing

You get what you deserve. Do unto others as you’d have them do unto you. Karma. What goes around comes around. For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. Call it what you will, but we all know that what really rings true is that you reap what you sow. The Bible talks about this in many ways, and most sermons will teach about the blessings that come from blessing others. Some pastors have even made their name public by preaching sowing a seed in your heart and believing for good things. But how does this apply to...

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Bring Empathy to Your Marriage

A few months ago, I heard a speaker mention empathy in his talk, and in that moment God tugged at my heart and I knew I needed to work on this area of my life. Like most of these areas where God is cultivating a fruit in your life I find that He is not developing empathy in me, but instead giving me opportunities to be empathetic. Just this morning my husband was making the bed and he said, “You know, I’ve made the bed for several days in a row…” This is a little statement isn’t it? Why is this...

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3 Ways to Build Lasting Character in Children

I remember a time when I brought my children to McDonald’s for an after school treat; something we try to do on Friday’s. After I finished paying, I turned around to see my children rushing over to help an elderly woman who had just dropped a large soda onto the floor. One of my children was walking the woman out of the area so she wouldn’t slip. Another was grabbing napkins by the handful, another was using the napkins to mop up the mess. It wasn’t long before this mamma was beaming with pride in how her children leaped up...

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Why Another Marriage Message?

Why another marriage message?  Several years ago when I was single, my friends would sometimes joke about why they didn’t want to hear another uncomfortable message in church regarding marriage.  I’ve even heard many church leaders since then express concern about alienating people if they bring a message about marriage too often before their congregation.  In each of these circumstances I was left scratching my head.  I understand the concerns and various points of view when speaking on marriage, but I think many of us are overlooking the purpose that is intended by such a message. Married, single, engaged, young, old,...

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What Kind of Idiot Did You Marry?

Jerry and I spend a lot of our time learning about marriage and communication. Believe me, there is a lot of stuff out there to sort through. It is important to take principles taught and measure them with God’s word. Over time, you’ll really learn how to interpret what spouse chooses to communicate with you, and possibly more importantly you can learn how to communicate in return. When Jerry and I first got married, we knew our relationship would be a continuation of all the great moments we shared while courting. You know; not even noticing how slow the food...

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Christian Divorce Rate – How Does It Compare?

A friend of mine asked me the other day what I thought of this article, “You May Have Heard That The Divorce Rate In The Church Is 50%… Get Ready To Be Shocked”.  I told him I would take a look at it and get back with him.  As I began to read it, I thought of previous articles such as:“Church Divorce Rate Way Lower Than Anyone Thought“, that were written about Shaunti Feldhahn – The Good News About Marriage”.  I thought to myself that maybe I should post this in a blog entry so that others could benefit from this information...

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Criticism in Marriage Part 3

In part 2 of Criticism in Marriage, we talked about the negative side of criticism and how it can really damage our relationships. But not all criticism is bad. In fact, Jesus was known for criticizing the religious leaders of his time. He spent his ministry teaching and correcting those around him, and guess what? Most of them listened! Many dropped what they were doing and followed Him. They took His criticism as direction and purpose. Why did the followers of Jesus so readily do this? Constructive Criticism – What is it? Wikipedia has a great explanation saying: Constructive criticism is...

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Why Are We Married?

Why do people get married?  I’m sure some quick answers come to mind: we love each other, we wanted to have kids and start a family, we want to spend the rest of our lives together.  I’m sure there are also some people out there whose answers come to mind that don’t sound as positive as these examples.  One alternate point of view is that according to a story in The New York Times, “Marriage has become a status symbol — a highly regarded marker of a successful personal life.” When we look at God’s reason and purpose for marriage,...