Marriage Awakening

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3 Ways to Respect Your Husband

Many of us know the song “Respect” that is sung by Aretha Franklin. It is so popular that it was named one of the top 500 songs of all time. Many women have felt empowered by another woman belting out a song and asking for “just a little respect”. What you may not know is that the song was written by a man, Otis Redding. So while women sang the song to demand respect from men, there was a silent plea for the very same thing from a man behind the scenes. In one of the lines of this epic song Otis writes,...

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Increasing Emotional Intelligence – Part 2

Several years ago at a marriage retreat my wife and I participated in a core motive-based self-assessment.  We also attended the seminar series explaining those results.  I couldn’t have imagined what I learned not only about myself, but also about every other person on the planet – especially my wife and kids.  That knowledge opened the door to my own self awareness.  It was like I was standing outside my body and observing my behaviors.  I realized that not everyone thought about things the same way that I did.  Everyone didn’t see things just like I saw things.  I encountered a perspective that I never...

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Increasing Emotional Intelligence – Part 1

Have you ever known someone, a friend or relative maybe, that lives their life purely by how they feel?  They make important decisions in the heat of the moment and wonder why things never work out for them.  This is also the kind of person who always blurts out the first thought that pops into their head and then follows it up with something like, “That’s just who I am, I don’t have any filter, deal with it”.  While this behavior can be fun for that person or even comical to the rest of us, it can also be very dangerous in terms...

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3 Ways You Can Have a Meaningful Marriage

Occasionally I run across a couple that say they really have a great marriage, but they get stuck in the grind of day to day life. They get up early and rush around getting ready for work and school, spend the entire day apart, then rush home to feed everyone and get to sleep. Feeling like life is one crazy, hurried day after another is nothing new. In fact Ecclesiastes speaks of all the seasons of life, the toilsome labor, and the meaninglessness of it all. While we don’t like to think of our lives as meaningless, they can quickly...

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7 Simple Tips for a Successful Marriage

Have you ever seen that couple who has been married 30, 40, 50 years or more?  I’m happy to say that my parents fell into this category.  While it wasn’t always an easy journey, they discovered some things along the way to be successful.  Inevitably, someone always asks these seasoned married couples,  “What is your secret to success in marriage?”  While I haven’t complied a list of responses from these marriage veterans, I have compiled a list of seven simple tips of what research and what the bible has to say about having a successful marriage.  Although they may be simple, they...

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The Do’s & Don’ts of Effective Communication

  When attempting to have a conversation with your spouse, have you ever had feelings of not being heard or possibly misunderstood?  Have you ever been in an argument and found yourself not even knowing what you are arguing about?  This could actually be a common feeling for some people who don’t take the time to examine the skills needed to be a good listener and good communicator. I’m sure at some point everyone has turned on the news and heard about some website or network that was getting shutdown by something called a denial of service or DoS attack over the internet?  This...

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5 Things to Discuss Before You Marry

From the moment you get engaged, to the moment you say, “I do” you and your future spouse are in a whirlwind of emotions ranging from love, stress, planning, happiness, crankiness, and so much more. You will probably spend more time, thought, and effort into planning and preparing for your wedding than you will for your marriage. In fact, many girls start planning their wedding day before they even meet their future husband. Imagine my surprise when my then 13 year old daughter began pinning rings, dresses, flowers, and hair styles to her “Wedding” board on Pinterest. All this to...

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Choosing an Attitude of Love

There is something deep inside of every human that tells us we need to feel loved. Loved by our parents, by our spouse, by our friends, by our family, and loved in general. This desire is so important that Jesus even told us that the greatest commandment is to love. Yet why do we find this so difficult in our day to day life with our spouse? Sadly the answer is pretty simple; we do not choose an attitude of love. We instead begin to focus on ourselves, generating negative thoughts, and eventually we are so closed off that we...

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The Importance of Dating in Marriage

Boy meets girl.  Boy pursues girl.  Boy gets girl.  Boy marries girl. Boy exhausted now!  That may be an all too familiar scenario in today’s instant gratification society, but guys it’s not an excuse to stop dating your wives.  If your marriage is important, then both of you must put a high value on dating your spouse. Studies suggest that married couples who invest in their relationship by having at least one date night per week experience: a significant increase in happiness, relationship satisfaction, communication, and sexual satisfaction by about 350% or 3.5 times higher than couples who aren’t regularly...

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Reaping and Sowing

You get what you deserve. Do unto others as you’d have them do unto you. Karma. What goes around comes around. For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. Call it what you will, but we all know that what really rings true is that you reap what you sow. The Bible talks about this in many ways, and most sermons will teach about the blessings that come from blessing others. Some pastors have even made their name public by preaching sowing a seed in your heart and believing for good things. But how does this apply to...