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Why Another Marriage Message?

Why another marriage message?  Several years ago when I was single, my friends would sometimes joke about why they didn’t want to hear another uncomfortable message in church regarding marriage.  I’ve even heard many church leaders since then express concern about alienating people if they bring a message about marriage too often before their congregation.  In each of these circumstances I was left scratching my head.  I understand the concerns and various points of view when speaking on marriage, but I think many of us are overlooking the purpose that is intended by such a message. Married, single, engaged, young, old,...

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What Kind of Idiot Did You Marry?

Jerry and I spend a lot of our time learning about marriage and communication. Believe me, there is a lot of stuff out there to sort through. It is important to take principles taught and measure them with God’s word. Over time, you’ll really learn how to interpret what spouse chooses to communicate with you, and possibly more importantly you can learn how to communicate in return. When Jerry and I first got married, we knew our relationship would be a continuation of all the great moments we shared while courting. You know; not even noticing how slow the food...

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Christian Divorce Rate – How Does It Compare?

A friend of mine asked me the other day what I thought of this article, “You May Have Heard That The Divorce Rate In The Church Is 50%… Get Ready To Be Shocked”.  I told him I would take a look at it and get back with him.  As I began to read it, I thought of previous articles such as:“Church Divorce Rate Way Lower Than Anyone Thought“, that were written about Shaunti Feldhahn – The Good News About Marriage”.  I thought to myself that maybe I should post this in a blog entry so that others could benefit from this information...

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Criticism in Marriage Part 3

In part 2 of Criticism in Marriage, we talked about the negative side of criticism and how it can really damage our relationships. But not all criticism is bad. In fact, Jesus was known for criticizing the religious leaders of his time. He spent his ministry teaching and correcting those around him, and guess what? Most of them listened! Many dropped what they were doing and followed Him. They took His criticism as direction and purpose. Why did the followers of Jesus so readily do this? Constructive Criticism – What is it? Wikipedia has a great explanation saying: Constructive criticism is...

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Why Are We Married?

Why do people get married?  I’m sure some quick answers come to mind: we love each other, we wanted to have kids and start a family, we want to spend the rest of our lives together.  I’m sure there are also some people out there whose answers come to mind that don’t sound as positive as these examples.  One alternate point of view is that according to a story in The New York Times, “Marriage has become a status symbol — a highly regarded marker of a successful personal life.” When we look at God’s reason and purpose for marriage,...

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Criticism in Marriage Part 2 – Destructive Criticism

In Part 1 of Criticism in Marriage, I barely scratch the surface of criticism whether good, bad, or indifferent. Today I would like to focus on criticism that is destructive and destroying marriages and families. Learning the differences in criticism is not only important for your marriage, but it will affect your workplace, your church, and your children. Types of Destructive Criticism One type is the passive aggressive comment. If you’ve ever seen Everybody Loves Raymond, you are familiar with this type of criticism. We usually call it a complement wrapped around an insult. Something like, “You did great a great job...

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Choose Love

When I decided to write on this topic I thought it would be fun to use the graphic above in remembrance of that popular movie scene in, “The Matrix”.  In the clip Morpheus asks, “Do you want to know what IT is?”  He was talking about the Matrix, but I’m talking about Love.  In that particular scene he gives the hero, Neo, a choice.  Take the blue pill and just go on believing whatever you want to believe.  For the purpose of this blog post, I equate this option to just keep on loving based on your own feelings.  Morpheus also gives him...

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Criticism in Marriage Part 1

Have you ever had the feeling that you can’t get anything right in the eyes of your spouse? Do you find yourself doing things, or even hiding things, just to avoid what your spouse may say? Are you getting that “why bother” mentality? You may find yourself thinking, why bother making the bed if she’s only going to complain that the pillows weren’t in the right order! In these types of relationships, it may seem at times that every attempt at pleasing just seems to result in criticism. You may feel like you have an overly critical spouse, but let’s back...

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Date Night

Not too long ago we became acquainted with a really great church in Branson, MO.  One of the reasons we have such a great respect for that church is that the cornerstone of the vision for their church includes holding marriage in high regard.  Every month they dedicate the second Sunday to be a marriage service held throughout their entire church where they bring attention of what God says about marriage.  What they are doing, I believes fulfills  what is said in part by: Hebrews 13:4, “Marriage should be honored by all…” Of course imitation is the highest form of flattery,...

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Marriage is Like Candy Crush

When I told Jerry I was thinking about writing a blog post to compare marriage to Candy Crush, I think his jaw actually fell into his lap. It’s always fun to get a reaction like that from your spouse, don’t you think? 🙂 For those of you who don’t know, Candy Crush is a game made popular by the social media site, Facebook, played on most devices. The game links up with your Facebook account so that you can, in some ways, play with your friends. It’s a puzzle game in which you advance level by level by completing the...