Category: Communication

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The Importance of Dating in Marriage

Boy meets girl.  Boy pursues girl.  Boy gets girl.  Boy marries girl. Boy exhausted now!  That may be an all too familiar scenario in today’s instant gratification society, but guys it’s not an excuse to stop dating your wives.  If your marriage is important, then both of you must put a high value on dating your spouse. Studies suggest that married couples who invest in their relationship by having at least one date night per week experience: a significant increase in happiness, relationship satisfaction, communication, and sexual satisfaction by about 350% or 3.5 times higher than couples who aren’t regularly...

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Bring Empathy to Your Marriage

A few months ago, I heard a speaker mention empathy in his talk, and in that moment God tugged at my heart and I knew I needed to work on this area of my life. Like most of these areas where God is cultivating a fruit in your life I find that He is not developing empathy in me, but instead giving me opportunities to be empathetic. Just this morning my husband was making the bed and he said, “You know, I’ve made the bed for several days in a row…” This is a little statement isn’t it? Why is this...

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What Kind of Idiot Did You Marry?

Jerry and I spend a lot of our time learning about marriage and communication. Believe me, there is a lot of stuff out there to sort through. It is important to take principles taught and measure them with God’s word. Over time, you’ll really learn how to interpret what spouse chooses to communicate with you, and possibly more importantly you can learn how to communicate in return. When Jerry and I first got married, we knew our relationship would be a continuation of all the great moments we shared while courting. You know; not even noticing how slow the food...

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Criticism in Marriage Part 3

In part 2 of Criticism in Marriage, we talked about the negative side of criticism and how it can really damage our relationships. But not all criticism is bad. In fact, Jesus was known for criticizing the religious leaders of his time. He spent his ministry teaching and correcting those around him, and guess what? Most of them listened! Many dropped what they were doing and followed Him. They took His criticism as direction and purpose. Why did the followers of Jesus so readily do this? Constructive Criticism – What is it? Wikipedia has a great explanation saying: Constructive criticism is...

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Criticism in Marriage Part 1

Have you ever had the feeling that you can’t get anything right in the eyes of your spouse? Do you find yourself doing things, or even hiding things, just to avoid what your spouse may say? Are you getting that “why bother” mentality? You may find yourself thinking, why bother making the bed if she’s only going to complain that the pillows weren’t in the right order! In these types of relationships, it may seem at times that every attempt at pleasing just seems to result in criticism. You may feel like you have an overly critical spouse, but let’s back...

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Role Models

Who were your role models when you were growing up? Were you into superheros who flew off to rescue someone at the first sign of trouble? Or maybe your hero was a teacher or coach who encouraged you, even if they were a little rough on you. Was your role model your mother or your father? If you are like me, you didn’t have the best childhood and therefore laugh when I suggest that your parents could have been your role model. In actuality, they probably made more of an impact on you than you realize. I was recently listening...

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5 Steps to Forgiveness

When is the last time you were deeply hurt by someone close to you? What was your response to the hurt? Perhaps you wanted to retaliate and seek revenge in some way. Or perhaps you took no action whatsoever and instead harbor bitterness and resentment in your heart. Do you carry your hurt with you to this day? You do great damage to yourself when you choose to have an unforgiving spirit. The root of unforgivness is a bitter root that takes hold in your heart, and then spreads a poison that chokes out every godly trait there. A friend...

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How to Change Your Spouse

Have you ever wondered, “If I could only change that one thing about my spouse, everything in our lives would be so much better.”  Let’s be honest, with all those wonderful habits in life that our partner has, who hasn’t wondered about changing at least one thing about our spouse?  The truth is you really can influence change in your spouse, but probably not in the way you think. So, you say you are desiring real change in your lives and your marriage?  Let’s look at what is required for real change to flourish – Integrity.  Integrity is the prerequisite...

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Dog Fight

In our family, we have two tiny chihuahuas. I know… not the most manly dogs for a family with 4 men and only 2 women, but we love them anyway. How can you not love those two sweet little faces? Just see the photo above and you’ll know what we mean. This morning, our two precious angels got into a dog fight. This is somewhat normal for them since Lucy (the white one) thinks that she is the boss of Barley (the tan one). But it was a bit more extreme today. There was gnarling and gnashing sprinkled with high...

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You Kiss Your Mother With That Mouth?

You may have heard it rhetorically exclaimed, “You kiss your mother with that mouth?!” Were they talking to you? Or maybe this is what you’ve shouted at another. Either way, we know that the things that fly out of our mouths can shock those around us. They are thinking how can a wonderful caring Christian person say such a thing? Even though our tongue is but a small part of our body, it corrupts the entire body and sets the whole course of our lives. The words you say can spark a fire that can set an entire forest ablaze, or...